I see where you're head is at, and I don't entirely disagree that parents have to assert their rules over their kids for the kids sake. That being said, parents should teach their kids how to establish boundaries for themselves, how to have self respect and be responsible for themselves.

If my dad abused my right to privacy, or assumed I was an entitled piece of shit who needs to be taught everything, as opposed to being trusted and encouraged to learn for myself, then he has no right to be a part of my life. My family is really good at treating each other like garbage, because everyone assumes theyre entitled to treat each other that way. I don't speak to my family because I have family members who speak to me in the same way you wrote your post.

If you want to be a family, don't assume you have rights that others must submit to, and if people are calling you a bigot, it probably has more to do with your own personal behavior than some larger societal problem. Take responsibility for yourself.