Hi there:) I didn't have time to read through all of the comments here, but I did want to show my support, as I am a parent about the same age as you, and I also have a son that's about the same age as yours.

My son came out to me this past September, but I had some suspicions. Mainly, he was signed into my youtube account,(maybe by accident, maybe he was testing me), and I saw he had saved some videos about "how to come out to your parents". I never approached him about it, but one day when we were having a serious conversation about another subject, I let him know how much I loved him, and that I hope he felt he could come to me with anything. I also told him, if he was ever struggling with anything, he could always write a letter to me, and ask me not to read it while he was home.

3 months later, I got a letter on the kitchen table. "Read this after I have left for the day" is what the envelope said. Teenagers love to communicate this way, and he thanked me for suggesting it, because he had no idea how to start a conversation with me about it. This gave us a starting point, and things between us have been fabulous. I don't have to worry about whether or not he is suffering, because he is free to be exactly who he is. No more hiding, no more being ashamed. I am dealing with a completely different kid now; he knows without a doubt he is loved, accepted, and cherished in his own home. He is finally happy...in the open!

I know it seems like I simply shared a condensed version of my experience, but in that story...there is advice. :) He will come to you when he is ready. These kids go through a lot mentally/emotionally when figuring it all out, and it takes a toll on them. Just make sure he knows home is the place where he is accepted and loved unconditionally. Don't force the issue, don't ask. It will come together. Best of luck to you, and your son. It's going to be okay. hugs