Just my 2 cents. While being homophobic is wrong, I also think refusing to meet someone because their views may be different than yours is also counter productive here. That's why the U.S. is so divided right now is because people refuse to interact with people who don't believe 100% of what they believe. I think you are also looking at it the wrong way in the sense that it's "an experiment to see if a bigot might come around." You are mad at him for judging you for your sexuality without him actually having met you. However, you are also judging him for not sharing the same beliefs as you without actually having met him - there is a little hypocrisy there. You don't know this guy's background just like he probably doesn't know yours... and you're never going to find out if you're burning a bridge before meeting the guy. Why can't you go and be friendly to this guy? Why wouldn't you want to go and prove this guy wrong? You don't grow as a human by surrounding yourself with people who only believe what you believe. Maturity is about being tolerant and accepting of someone even when you don't agree with that other person. Be the bigger person here and don't throw away a friendship when it's not even her views.