I went to a real live trans gender meet up, when I first started transitioning medically. I was looking to meet some transmasculine folks, and talk about what I could expect from testosterone.

The gals that ran the place were super nice, but said most transgender men just fade away. I think they were right. I faded away, because what I wanted and needed was a bit different than what they did.

Most folks just don't think of transgender men. I'm completely 100% out at work, to the point of having a "I bought a dick" party before surgery.

Yet, one of my coworkers went all stupid in his support for bathroom bills. He literally did a double take when I told him, "Fine, I'll pee next to your daughter." Suddenly he had to rethink everything, he said. He'd literally never considered transgender men would be in with his daughter.

I find for me, it means I have to come out again, and again, and again. Even when I'm out. Even then, I sometimes have to prove I used to look like a lady. They just don't believe we exist.