Gender Tag, anyone?

How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you? I'm genderqueer+transmasc. For me, that means I am a masculine centred person. I don't feel comfortable identifying with, nor to I relate to society's overarching definition of what it means to be a 'man'. What pronouns do you use? They/them or He/Him Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. I love men's fashion, especially the dapper/vintage variety. I typically wear a range of button down shirts, ties, waistcoats, though I enjoy putting together casual jean outfits too. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave? I am still 3 months away from T, so sadly I have very little facial hair, at least not enough to qualify as beard territory. I let the rest of my body hair grow wild. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What types of soaps and perfumes do you use, if any? I wear concealer if my acne is getting bad. Once I'm able to pass 100% of the time as male I may explore makeup options more. Have you experienced being misgendered? If so, how often? About 90% of the time. Do you experience dysphoria? How does that affect you? I have terrible bottom dysphoria. My chest is naturally very small, however, so binding hasn't been difficult. Bottom dysphoria fucks with my sex life a lot. Talk about children. Are you interested in having children? Would you want to carry a child if that were an option for you? Do you want to be the primary caretaker for any children you may have? The very idea of carrying a child in my tiny twink body makes me nauseated B) I don't want children, period, though. Talk about money. Is it important to you to provide for a family financially if you choose to have one? Is it important to you that you earn more than any partner you may have? Do you prefer to pay for things like dates? Are you uncomfortable when others pay for you or offer to pay for you? I don't think too much about social implications when it comes to who-pays-what. It wouldn't bother me at all if my SO made more money than I did. That'd be great in fact! Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender? Gender is a pretty wibbly wobbly experience in a lot of ways I think. Ultimately I don't think the concept of gender even exists as we know it today. People express their gender identity in whatever way feels true to themselves, and it shouldn't ever be tied to the Big Bad Binary.

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