I actually don’t think this is about just the text. I would guess you didn’t actually match on values the way you think that you did. If she really considered you 9/10 in terms of what SHE is looking for, she’d probably be willing to keep communicating to see if that was a slip-up, or to figure out a communication style that worked - which is what your question is trying to do.

I’m guessing what’s actually going on is something like:

• you said something about kids - wanting them or not wanting them or the timeline - that didn’t align with her
• you said something about being a workaholic that she laughed about, but was a big turnoff. Maybe she’s dated a workaholic before
• you came across as arrogant and not warm enough (which I’m sorry OP, you kinda do in this post…), and while she laughed along, the lack of text response just confirmed what she was already thinking
• she just wasn’t very attracted to you. This would align with her not rushing towards a date and being so chilled waiting. It doesn’t mean you’re unattractive, but maybe she’s into just a different type. If you’d been attentive, maybe she’d have kept with it, like “he’s super respectful and responsive and into me…even though I’m not attracted to him let’s see where this goes.” But once you weren’t responsive she no longer felt guilty about letting you go.