Couples counseling won’t fix this. Abusers are in complete control though they blame victims. He would never do this to someone at work who angered him.

You need to leave and don’t turn to your family because they are horrifically wrong. No one deserves abuse. Don’t blame yourself for not leaving yet. Leaving is hard but you will be better off. See if there’s a domestic violence organization near and they can help with a plan to leave and counseling for you and the children.

Think about: What would you want your daughters to do in a similar position? What would you tell a friend to do? It can help put things in perspective.

You could absolutely file a police report if you choose to.

It’s unfortunate when those we love, partners and family, don’t support and love us like they should. Just because your mother gave birth to you doesn’t mean she’s right and you’re wrong or she knows more than you. Parents, like partners, can be flawed and make mistakes too and even endanger and hurt the people they are supposed to love.