I am 27. I used to go from LTR to LTR. It would last about 2 years, and I didn't really want to be with that person. But I would stay with them because I was insecure. I had this stupid pattern where I didn't want to be with them, but I wouldn't do anything about it. So it would manifest by me thinking they didn't want to be with me, and I would become overbearing trying to keep that relationship stable. Want to know the best way to make yourself miserable? Stay in a relationship you don't want to be in. Learn to say GG and Nope out like a man.

After one such relationship I had had enough. She was good for me in that she got me exercising and eating better, and I realized I could change myself. I lost a bunch of weight, and started dressing better and taking charge of my life. I moved to a new city, and suddenly the world was my oyster.

I didn't have to date the first person that came along. I could meet a bunch of awesome girls, and not commit to anything I didn't want to. And when you are open honest with what you want, you gain more respect and freedom from the women in your life. They trust you because quite simply, you aren't feeding them bullshit about how you feel.

The most important thing is to focus on yourself and your friends and your family. Be there for your friends. Get in shape. Get your career right. Call your mom and tell her you love her. Get your clothes right. Get your finances right. Don't feel like you have to comit to any relationship that doesn't fit like a glove.

When looking for a serious relationship, you should look for a few things beyond sexual attraction. Honesty, sense of humor, and openness to communication. You should be able to give each other space and not cause drama all the time. They should be someone you can be friends with as much as someone you want to have lots of sex with. And don't rush. Don't move in too soon, or do big moves for the wrong reasons.