I get it, I’ll be 48 next month and I get it. Here’s what I finally get... you teach people how to treat you and no one will put you first if you don’t feel you belong there. You have to put you first. You don’t sink to meet someone at their level, they should rise to meet you. Took 48 years and I’m still working it because I feel guilty or unaccepting of others although nothing could be further from the truth. I’m still rationalizing the fact that no one ever felt guilt for NOT putting me first just hoping I’d be good enough that they naturally would. It’s never happened in 48 years. Put yourself where you want to be and never settle for less. Save yourself years of issues by knowing that now and those that fall away where only there to gain something but not contribute so you’re better off anyway. How does anyone put you first if you treat yourself like you’re ok with less?