Oh no. EVERYBODY knows - her parents, siblings, her husband's family, all of her friends - they all question why I have hung in there for as long as I did and they have no contact with either of them anymore. She and I were estranged because of this exact thing - I saw her husband verbally abuse her and she has been beaten down psychologically (and physically I have heard but not seen) and she defended his actions to me (still does) and I left the friendship for about 15 years. Recently reconnected and thought I was getting through to her but apparently not. I am her only friend, her husband has none and everyone walks a wide circle around them. Their kids are so screwed up and one is a criminal. I am moving into a new house in another town and I think she is wanting to move in with me from a few hints she has dropped. I won't do it as I know she will remain in her marriage. Her husband is an abusive drunk/alcoholic and they feed off of each other. Sorry to hijack this thread. I have enough on my plate and am trying to detach myself without looking like I am. Just want some distance from this sick relationship.