Our situations are kinda eerie! We actually went through the whole underweat several sizes to small thing as well. I remember it kind of infuriated us at the time bc BM poses her in cute new clothes all the time for her IG account, so she certainly clothing shops! But buying new underwear? Bathing her or taming her curly hair? Nope, sends her over in underwear several sizes too small, hair in a rat's nest and stinky. Sigh.

The best thing we have found to really feel like we've made an impression on SDs progression was to spot areas where she was passionate. Learning other languages was one. We went down a hard road with reading before we realized we need to take a step back and give it time. But we noticed she lived counting and was doing addition naturally (as in just saying "hey one ladybug and one ladybug is two ladybugs!"). We sought these things out and tried to create an environment where we're her biggest cheerleaders and teachers (until she starts kindergarten) in these areas. I stated in a different comment to another person that DH even started learning a language with her because she wanted someone to speak it with her. She has grown to really cherish these moments with us and comes over ready and happy to learn. It's been the biggest achievement in this cloud where we normally feel demotivated.

I'm definitely ready for anything BM tries. Thanks for the pointers there!