How do you pick up chicks?

In all seriousness though, you don't attract quality women by approaching them with the mindset that you are picking up a chick. Women worth dating don't like being seen as a conquest. You have to earn their interest.

You do that by staying out of their vision and observing them. Pay attention to who her friends are, and her friends friends, and there friends. Get about 3 or 4 layers of friends deep and ask them questions about her. Figure out what she likes, favorite color, favorite author, who shes dated in the past. Study who she dated, figure out who broke up with who. If she dumped them, why did she dump them (don't be like those guys). If they dumped her, why did they dump her, maybe you really shouldn't try to date her. If they dumped her because they cheated on her and started dating someone else shes been hurt, don't get friend zoned, let that damage repair with some time.

If everything looks good, you use what you've learned about her to get her interested in you on her own. Start reading a book from her favorite author around her, get really knowledgeable about it, start gradually changing your attire to stuff she likes, even if you change hair cuts, and styles completely (but not fast, change gradually, as if you are gradually changing ""slowly""). Change your schedule so you run into each other. Be the guy that's there to help her pick up her books. Or the one with a can of gas in your car when she runs out on the highway. Be the one that gives her a ride home when her ride doesn't show up at work.

Not though, if you do these things wrong, her stalker detection might fire and now you're a creeper and game over. In doing these thigns, you need to be descrete, blending in, do enough to turn fate in your direction, but not enough that she feels like you're following her all over the place.

When around her, treat her like a normal woman, except Treat her with respect, class, be confident around her, strong willed, well spoken, and gentlemanly (hold doors, open doors, etc). Don't flirt with her till you've been around her a while.

This is how you win her over, and this is how guys who aren't all that in the looks department land the girl that's a 9/10. It's a slow, skill based process that takes years to master. You have to be the kind of person that's calm, cool, and collected in all scenarios, that is friends with everybody and enemies with next to no one to pull it off.

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