How secretive about the lifestyle should I/we be? Does it really matter if people you know find out about your sex life?

My wife and I aren't in the lifestyle, but its something we've talked about. We were partially outed due to an Apple Shared Family plan. I'm divorced and have shared custody of my kids. My kids devices were on my family plan and unknown to me, the apps I'd downloaded throughout the history of my Apple ID showed in the history on their devices. Needless to say an uncomfortable conversation was had with my ex which resulted in my kids moving off my family plan to hers.

Aside from that, I don't have a huge concern if we were to be outed at some point. My wife feels differently about it. We're planning a trip to Temptations in 2023 and I have no issue telling my friends and family where we are going. She's not sure what she's going to tell her family about where we are headed.

We've had a range of reactions from some of our friends when they were asked if they wanted to go to Temptations with us. Some can't wait to go, some have said some pretty negative things.

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