I feel for you. Mine is going on 40, tells the same lousy/crude jokes all the time. I'm a serious person so it can be hard to get me to crack up anyway, that's on me. He talks about all these plans he has to "save the world" but never does anything about it, doesn't take a single step towards any of his goals, blaming everyone else that "won't push him to do it" or "won't work on it with him." Everything he says, he says because he thinks he knows best, and he always knows best, no matter what you say. I'm a sole income-earner and he wants me to quit and go on welfare. I will give him credit, at least once out of the 4 times a month that I ask him to take the trash out for garbage day, he'll remember to do it. He says everything I say is defensive, everything is an excuse, and I'm not allowed to say no to anything ever, he doesn't make excuses, he just lies, I've never met a more incredible liar. I tried to keep the kitchen tidy, I really did, but he never washes anything, leaves his trash on the counter, his computer desk is piled with ashes and cans and garbage he was too lazy to toss out. I'm tired of cleaning after him. When I cook he complains half the time because he knows better, could have done better, but refuses to get up and do it himself.

I don't think you're a shitty person unless you are being a hypocrite. I don't feel shitty for resenting my spouse, he thinks he can manipulate me and that he's within his rights to do so. We are not bad people, just overly tolerant.

You're not alone, but he won't even try to change unless you bring up some of your concerns. I'm actually trying to find a safe way out of my marriage, but it doesn't sound like you are there yet or have anything to fear.

Good luck <3