The three steps are control, sense, and then alter. You learn basic control of the force within you. You learn to sense the force around you. Then you learn to alter the force around you. If you deviate from those steps, you are taking the quick and easy path (dark side).

First, you use the force to be lazy. Open doors, get the remote control, etc. You'll get better as you practice but the temptation to do more will kick in very quickly and the Dark Side is very tempting. Then that girl you have a crush on who's dating that loser will have "wind" lift up her skirt. Harmless right? Then one day, you'll convince yourself to ask her to show her breasts and have her forget. No harm, no foul right? Then it's full nudity. Then it's rape. Then when the boyfriend confronts you, it's force choke time. Murder. You've effectively enslaved a woman and killed an innocent man. Full Dark Side.

So the first thing I would do is to find a dojo with a good teacher to teach me discipline and learn to use the force gradually using martial arts. I can learn to sense things around me and then move stuff around when I am confident that I wouldn't abuse it.