i think we have confused definitions of ‘dating’. i would consider myself monogamous as well, but would be fine with ‘dating’ multiple people as a way of getting to know them before entering into a relationship (where dating means like going on dates).

i do agree that everyone has a different way of dating and it’s totally valid that you are able to find connection within 1-2 dates. i’m not one of those people unfortunately, so of course how we go about dating will be different. and when i was looking for a partner i was speaking with multiple, but i made sure everyone i talked to was aware of this and i was fine with knowing that they were also talking to other people. i guess i kind of think that i know my worth and seeing a potential partner also talking to other women doesn’t bother me at all?

but again, we are just different people who want different things from our relationships and that’s normal.