You should not divorce your wife just because the sex life isn't what you hoped for.

I get the feeling you have actually read what I said. It's not that the sex isn't what i hoped for. It is that she is refusing to have sex at all.

She will only have sex if I agree to try to give her a baby. Even if I do that though, after she gets pregnant the sex will stop according to her. She wants a sexless marriage. She is doing this despite the fact that leading up to marriage she said she wanted to wait years to have children, and she told me she wanted to have sex for pleasure. Now she is saying God suddenly "laid it on her heart" that sex is a sin if it is for pleasure, and she is demanding that we have a baby right now.

talk it over with her. Express your concerns and views and pray together about it

I have and will continue to.

maybe get some counseling.

I have. She is refusing to.

don't divorce your wife. That isn't grounds for divorce. Til death do us part .

What I'm wondering is if it is even a marriage in the first place. If someone lies in order to get the marriage, then maybe it isn't even a marriage in the first place. After all, legally speaking, if someone lies to get another person to enter into a contract, then that contract is considered null and void.

If she had lied and said she was a woman but was actually a man, for instance, I bet you'd be singing a different tune. However, put yourself in my shoes. It is almost the same type of situation. She is demanding a sexless marriage and is refusing to get counseling.

I'll continue to try to talk to her gently and love her as best I can, of course. However, as for me... I'm not so sure this was ever an actual marriage in the first place. It seems to me it was more of a con than anything. I'll continue to pray about it of course. Thanks for taking time to try to give advice, but i don't think you're actually hearing what i've said.