I am getting married in 3 months and planning this wedding is sucking the joy out of my life. Instead of being happy and excited about it I am just stressed, hate wedding planning, and want all of this to be over and for my fiancé and I to go on our honeymoon and be together as husband and wife.
So what is wrong? I don't know how exactly to convey all of this info words only that it sucks. Before I got engaged I dreamed of a beautiful wedding in Italy, in a palazzo or somewhere romantic. The first thing that went wrong is my fiancé's family flat out refused to attend if it was not in their home country since it is inconvenient for them to travel. So we caved in and relented to their demands. However, they are not helping out at all with anything and all the financial stuff and work is falling to my and my family. They didn't even come for the venue vewings when my parents and I travelled all the way across the world to their home country! Only my fiancé came.
Second, I underestimated how much of my time and energy everything would take. I not only have to deal with menu's, guest list, vendors, and all of that usual stuff but my family's insane demands. For them it's not about me and my relationship it's about showing off to their friends. Nothing I do is enough! I don't even feel like the boss of my own wedding. My parents act like they're the boss of everything! Even 5 courses is not enough! They want more than one cuisine and a lot of courses because what will people say? People will think we are so poor we can't even provide more than one course. I am being forced to get chocolate boxes as souvenirs to go along with the wedding invitations, since that's customary in our society. I originally suggested 9-12 chocolates in the box but they wanted 25! Settled for 16. Things that shouldn't be a problem are becoming a problem. For example, they want the hotel to provide a special menu for the guests to make use of to eat lunch on day of arrival (we have many guests coming from abroad) on our expense. Why?! There are so many restaurant near the hotel, there is room service, and we are putting a welcome basket in the rooms with cookies and stuff. Why can't they live with it for a day?! Why is one cuisine not enough?! You know what they told me? My dad's friend only eats Indian food (family is originally from India). We're already doing a dinner party to welcome everyone the day before the wedding, wedding ceremony and lunch, and evening reception with a party. Everything has a specified theme and cuisine. You know what my parents said? Put Indian food in all events because dad's friend doesn't eat other food. He is one person!! One!!
I can't deal right now. Not only that but I have a wedding planner yet she takes ages for everything, we are behind the timeline, and the hotel isn't budging on some details. For example they're only giving us the ballroom until 3am. I think that's ok but my cousin told me ask them to give it till 6am. Jesus Christ, is nothing I ever do enough for anyone?
Plus there were supposed to be some family dance performances for the reception but now we got a singer for the reception plus cake cutting, first dance, speeches, dinner etc. I don't know what can fit in. My cousin was supposed to help me out regarding family dances and found me a choreographer. I told them I need to figure out the timeline first before I get back with a list of who is performing and for how long. I don't even know if we can have family dances at all given the schedule. I'm expecting to start late as Indians are never on time. You know what she did? She didn't wait for me and went and made a group chat regardless of what I said and my phone is now constantly buzzing. I told them in the group chat I am coordinating with my wedding planner about the timeline and I will get back to them about that. While I appreciate all the effort I would like them not to take any further action till I get this info.
The sad part is the wedding isn't not about me and my fiancé anymore. It's morphed into a showy society event. I never liked party planning in the first place and now it's all I do. I can't even do my actual work and attend to any of my goals for this year because my whole mind and energy is sucked up by this giant monster. My parents are funding it so they call the shots.
Plus the save the dates have already gone out and we'll be sending out hotel information soon so there's nothing I can do except bear it until it's over. I am so sad and overwhelmed I have no idea where to begin.
I'm sorry this has turned into a giant rant about everything. But I just really don't enjoy my wedding anymore. It seems like everybody always wants something from me.