This hits home for me because I'm gay but it's not obvious by just looking at me or hearing my voice.

I grew up "closeted" so all of my learned behaviour is to not share any details about myself.

But every single social interaction, work or otherwise is about sharing details about your personal life which is always uncomfortable for me.

I've been living with my boyfriend for 12 year now, we now live in a nice little Townhouse, we like collecting vinyl and playing video games on PC. Aka. our Livingroom and Bedroom.

But I always have to contend with whatever someone's emotional backlash is to "HOMOSEXUAL"

So I just love not talking socially to people ever, because you have to come out of the closet thousands of times, not just once.

So people share everything about themselves to me, tell me I'm a good listener or I'm nice, but I don't ever tell people anything about myself or my issues.

Everyone becomes someone you have to entertain or reflect their own personality back to, which people love.

So socializing I can do really really well, I can talk to anyone, even difficult people. But I hate it so much because most of it is just meeting people at their personality, like a parlor trick.

I get tired pretty quick of entertaining other people's interest and need for connection for free all day.

And finding gay friends is a problem, because it's dating, it's not friends. Same sex friendships with gays is...again dating, it's hard to not sexualize it and gay stuff happens to be very over sexualized understandably.

So I'm quiet. Sometimes people find that really weird because I'm vastly under social. I do not seek out social contact from others in any public setting.