i grew up with a monster. my brother was 3 years older than me , and male, and i was tormented from birth until he moved away. physically, mentally, emotional, and eventually sexually. My parents kept thinking he'd grow out of it, that he was really a good boy just misunderstood, and ignored it all.

on a beach trip 4 years ago - he was 35 and i was 32- he attacked me over an argument over the last diet coke- tried strangling me and beat me until i was bleeding and black and blue. I now have a restraining order on him.

i refuse to talk to my parents as they still took his side and said that i "was being sassy".

thank you for recognizing his behavior is not normal. i'm sorry i don't have advice but as the victim of severe sibling abuse im proud that you're recognizing it early and reaching out instead of hoping it goes away.