When I read your title, I rolled my eyes and thought “Oh, here’s another post by a guy who isn’t attracted to his wife’s after-child birth body…” but I’m glad I actually took the time to read the whole post because I can absolutely see where you’re coming from and why you feel the way you do.

There’s no way to feel intimate with the person you love if there’s literal physical barriers between you. And I don’t mean just sex when I say intimate. I mean you’re not allowed to hug or kiss, not even in a sexual way. That sucks. I get why you feel used.

I think you’re just going to have to decide what is best for you. And it sucks, too, that there’s no easy answers and no easy fix if the other person is completely unwilling to try to change at all or even acknowledges that they’re the problem.