Wow, sorry everyone in here is super quick to judge you as an asshole. I understand marriage is tough and early on lots of this little treaty making and deal making goes on.

What you need to draw a line between in your mind (and out loud with your wife) is how you spend your time and being willing to compromise with your spouse for joint activities. The one glass of wine a night = your prerogative and even if you were drinking "too much" not something she can control. If she continually brings it up you just say "I am aware of your feelings on this matter however you knew I drank when we got married so it shouldn't really be a surprise. Would it be better if I went and did it privately while reading a book or something?"

Speeding is a tricky one, she is a passenger presumably so has a right to request a slower speed if she feels unsafe. If this is a problem for you because she is being late and thus making you late then you address that problem not the speeding. My parents don't like how I drive so when I am driving them I slow it down.

Going to bed at the same time is not something you should accept however. It is a very common demand by wives it seems these days and is not something that will ever turn out well even if you try to work with her on it. She needs to understand that you are an adult and go to bed when you please, otherwise you could easily do the same to her and demand she stay up until you are "ready" which would be equally asinine.

Cussing = again you can make some compromise here. If there are specific words or phrases you should be able to eliminate those around her.

So to reiterate my main point: If it is something like when you go to bed, that is not her call. If it is something like keeping up with your cleaning activities (basic roommate etiquette here) she has every right to expect compromise. Finally, if you haven't already get a copy of the Five Love Languages and read it with her and pay attention to the parts about the "Love Tank" because it seems like yours is kinda getting empty and she is not aware of that. It will also give you some insight into how those confusing feelings of hers actually work. Chin up and ignore the haters, asking questions and for advice is exactly what you should be doing and people who just respond "You are a dirtbag" are neither helpful nor correct.