Me [28 M] with my gf [27 F] 4 years, asked me what she should do with her life and I don't have a good answer.

Yeah agree. A career counselor would be a great start.

The thing is, she's works a couple years at different jobs and they all have things in common. Either poor management/ownership, some coworkers with a very selfish/non-teamwork personality who like to believe they're managers/special/lack of accountability with no repercussions, short staffed/high workload. It's to the point she's asking if this is normal and it's just her that's the problem. I let her know it's not her, I've been in hostile work environments with a doctor throwing things at staff, telling a girl who got pregnant what things she was capable of doing at work because he can't just keep a pretty face around, expecting to pay part time college students minimum wage then expecting great output. She's just had bad luck. But she thinks its her that brings those personalities out of people. She even worked at a place where the boss had her boyfriend working as office manager who was stealing money for his drug habit to the point she couldn't pay the employees on time. And there were only like 3 employees working. That's the kind of work places she's been a part of.

She also has a fear of rejection that if a job doesn't want her it's a reflection on her as a person. Even when I tell her that's not the case. So even applying causes her anxiety.

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