Why do men keep hurting me emotionally?

Yes. I kind of wrote about it in a different post on another account...I'll keep the important parts in only:

We discussed things about life, religion, politics, joke around, pretty much everything. We got pretty close to one another and discovered we shared some important similar values. He always had the choice to leave me or stay and most always decided to stay a little longer to talk to me, go drinking, etc. He listened to my problems, provided support, and it seemed he really cared about me. He'd always reassure me, ask about me and what was going on for me at the moment. But what made me think he likes me, is the way he'd talk to me, in the softest, kindest voice ever that he wouldn't use around others. The way he'd say my name, I absolutely loved it. And how he'd look at me so intently, admiring me, especially when I put in more effort into my makeup/outfit that day. He would flirt with me as well.

In addition he never...touched me, ever. Not even for a hug. Then again, I never hugged him either, but it's because we were emotionally close and it never really reached even that point between us physically. There was also this awkward tension between us sometimes. Some days, he wouldn't look at me all too much or just take quick glances then look away, as though nervously, or hiding something. I wanted him to make a move already, and secretly inside wondered why he wouldn't ask me out since things were generally going well between us.

It's also important to mention that during the time we knew each other, I was going through a pretty difficult time in my life. He was my go-to, besides a female friend of mine, to vent to about my difficulties.

Strangely, he never much confided in me about his life. I suppose this is either because he did not have much going on (this seemed the most viable option), or that we were too busy trying to focus on my problems to solve any of his. Though I don't think he ever was going through anything serious; he would vent certain problems about his courses to me and maybe one or two personal issues, but never delved deep so I didn't push him to say anything.

That's it really. I apologise if it is a lot to read, but that is some of the context behind this.

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