Everyone is dateable. It’s just a matter of by whom, and when.

For reference, see basically all of history before now. Is it possible to die alone, yes. Are there peak windows of dateability? There sure are.

Is it still possible for people who think they’ll be alone forever to find someone? Absolutely. It’s just that their standards likely need to change.

Someone said reassess the market trends, ones own market value, as well as market opportunities… it’s tough to hear, but it is the truth.

On the flip side: love yourself, and be ok with being single, and this whole thing is a non issue. It just depends on what your perspectives are and your ultimate goals.

Only you can decide what compromises you want to make, but you have to be realistic in the likelihood of finding what you are looking for, when, from whom, how… and most importantly: why?

You can swing for the stars, but know that the likelihood of it all lining up is low.

You can set bare minimum expectations, but know that you may not actually like who you end up with very much (and no one deserves that type of toxicity in a relationship, in either side).

So, the chances are likely that there is a fine balance somewhere in the middle. And you should outright NOT date people with (nor yourself subscribe to) the grass is greener syndrome. Bring it up, and don’t be afraid of philosophical conversations. That’s how you learn the most about people… and many people simply don’t spend enough time exploring philosophy… then wonder why they have so much philosophical conflict with their partners.

Chances are someone you’ve met was super into you, and it just wasn’t reciprocated by you. That is perfectly ok, but we have to be honest in accepting the fact that there was indeed a chance, we simply wanted more than what they offered. And it’s a brutal truth to accept, because it is a two way street. But accepting seeming truth is to make peace with existence.

Should we make the world better? Yes. But we also can’t control others, only ourselves. And in that way… don’t worry about what other people do too much, just focus on you. Grow every day, improve, become a better you.

At some point, you’ll likely cross paths with someone who appreciates your growth and person for what it is. And at a certain point you have to decide: on the spectrum of perfect dream person vs literally anyone… where can you happily draw a line, and simply enjoy life? Whether it be single, or in a relationship. But only you can decide that, and you have to truly be at peace with whatever you choose.

Best of luck, and I hope you find that in which you seek.