You can pm me if you'd like to share more details. I think I understand what you're talking about and it's all very hard to explain but I'll try my best. This is my experience:
I met someone very special when I was in the fifth grade. He's an ENFP. I saw him for the very first time at his elementary school's talent show. His performance was captivating; even for a 4th grader at the time.
When he got into middle school, he was a part of a special gifted program with me. We took dance classes together once a week and it was a privilege that only a few of us had. He was one of the only boys in the group. I kept my distance from him, but I continued to admire him from afar.
When I was in the 10th grade, it was his freshman year. I finally had a REAL class with him. He was interested in talking to my good friend about theatre, and he ended up sitting next to me for the remainder of the semester. He seemed legitimately enthralled with my "life story" and he would attempt to hold my hand and kiss me. I was very withdrawn from him. I didn't allow it. He was very flirty with other girls, whether he realized it or not.
I really REALLY liked him. I determined that I admired him and respected him so much, that I would never allow myself to pursue a relationship with him. I'd never allow myself to truly get to know him. His flirtiness with other girls; it was a part of him. It came naturally to him. And considering how controlling I am of others, I would NEVER be okay with the excessive flirtiness. Some people just can't control how FLIRTY they are with others and I believed that he was one of them.
So I let him go and suppressed my deep feelings for him. I told myself that it was all a joke to him, that he didn't really want me. I put up a wall against him. I never let myself get to know him for who he was; I only know what I saw on the surface.
He continued to behave the same way around me all throughout high school (we had choir class together). I dismissed his attempts by comparing myself to all the other girls he tried to flirt it up with.
I'm twenty years old now and I believe that I still have feelings for this person. I keep having dreams about him. And I do miss him. Even though I don't know who he truly is.