1- "even if they didn't attack, they would still be killed" Fine, Prove it, find me actual evidence for this claim and don't back peddle

2- Stop with this emotional BS, watch the summary

3- He offered to marry saffiya RA, and told her that she is free to refuse, and you will have to accept this to be consistant because it comes from the same hadith that talks about her marrying him Peace be upon him

4- she has mulitple hadiths talking about how her husband, kenana used to abuse and beat her, Safiyya have informed Kenana of a dream she had in which the moon had fallen from the heavens into her lap. Kenana interpreted it as a desire to marry Muhammad and struck her in the face, leaving a mark which was still visible when she first had contact with Muhammad