Before we adopted after several years...we got:
"You are worldly.". (Broke f*** poverty stricken in school is "wordly". We barely had a pot to pee in.)
"Sis "X", I heard your ovaries don't work!" -Said the bishop's counselor who had a crush on me and knew nothing about my fertility. ...P.S. I don't have fertility problems. Some board person making rumors...
"Don't you want kids?"
"God only gives you what you can handle." - Meaning apparently I couldn't handle kids. **I ran a freaking FT daycare with 7 kids!
And a million others...
After adoption people can be "gems"...
(First comment from a person at church) We walked into church and announced we had a baby!!!! The nursery leader asked, "Did her mom do drugs?". <--- I was furious. Do I ask ladies in the ward who walk in with their new miracle if they do drugs??
"Don't you want a kid of your own?"
(In front if my kid who can understand) "What about her REAL mother?"
"Why didn't her parents want her?" (Again- STOP! Don't say this ever! Especially in front of my kid! Her first parents loved her very much, but made a very brave and hard decision.)
"She is so lucky to have you."- No, we are all blessed to have each other. My hubby and I are the lucky ones.
"Can you only imagine the life she would of had with her bio parents?"- Shut up! She would of had a good life. Different, but good.
"I could never adopt."--- then don't.
"She looks just like you. You could never tell she was "adopted".". --What is that supposed to mean? I don't think people "look" adopted.
*Also, people trying to guess who is infertile in front of you or behind your back!
Newsflash: People adopt for many reasons. It could be health, financial, career, LOVE, etc... Just be happy for anyone that adopts.
If you don't want people imagining you and your hubby "conceiving" and asking you about the details-- then please don't get curious and nosy about adoptive couples business.
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