Then can you please explain what is wrong about what I said? My comment’s point was that it’s not okay to tell a child that they should “get a job and pay your own bills” when they’re asking how to resolve a conflict. I’m really confused about what it is you’re taking issue with.

And while I don’t have kids of my own I do live with people who do and as one of the adults in the house I do participate in the parenting aspect of things when it’s appropriate. I’ve been the one to take kids grocery shopping while they were hungry, I’ve taking them to sporting events, I’ve participated in conversations about a teenage girl’s boyfriend who still talks with their ex. I still fail to see what that has to do with the morality of using guilt and finances to manipulate a child.