My [21F] boyfriend [24M] can't come to a milestone event of mine because of a party- am I wrong to feel upset?

He's visited me once this month. I visited him three times- I even helped him set up his whole apartment. I guess I think a 6 hour round trip isn't that much considering I used to commute 12 hours one way by plane to see him.

I definitely don't feel like people have to prove their love for me. I just think that this specific event meant a lot for me. When I was back in my own country, I had a similar event, and I had a lot of good friends that came. I guess I was envisioning the same sort of response and was really let down when it didn't fall through.

After so much setting me back last year and struggling to adjust to this new country I wanted to be able to celebrate this with him there. And I'm really disappointed that I can't. I don't think at all that he doesn't love me because he can't come. Like I said in my post, he shows me how much he loves me. I am just disappointed I think by the turnout overall.

I have gone to all my friends events. I have bent over backwards to be there for them. This is probably the second thing I have asked them to come to for my sake. The first was my 21st birthday party. I am just really disappointed that they can't even muster up a reply to me when I asked them if they'd come. They saw the message and didn't reply. They just ignored me.

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