I’m an adoptee. You can’t fix this. No one can. Being an adoptee and feeling the way he does (not fitting in w his adopted family) is a very lonely and isolating experience that’s hard to talk about with someone that doesn’t get it. And along with meeting a birth parent and the meeting not going well is even worse. The rejection alone is soul crushing.

You need to give him time. Do not push him to talk about it. Just be there when he’s ready, tell him he is safe and keep an eye on him. But unfortunately you can’t fix anything. It might have been better to contact her beforehand but I can also understand just going over there as well, as I considered the same.

It’s very lonely being an adoptee.