If your friends would threaten your boyfriend's job and accuse him of being racist for this, you need different friends. I know people like this (that constantly threaten my job and everyone else in the field's job over EVERY little freaking thing) and it's exhausting and stressful to deal with.

A chunk of my work friends (who thankfully work at other schools) have started doing things like this on Facebook. Earlier this term, a graduate student from another school reported me to my Department Chair for eating at Chick Fil A, and told her that I should be fired. Like your boyfriend's boss, she just shrugged it off. The email was full of how I was being homophobic and did not deserve my job. (Why? Because I posted on Facebook that I tried and liked Chick Fil A sauce, which we can get in the cafeteria at work without even ordering Chick Fil A food. I did not actually eat there--that time--and had tried the sauce because a student recommended it.) This sort of behavior is becomming a huge problem, in my opinion, in some liberal groups and it has to be stopped.

These same women have come after people for posting pictures of white people's hair in braids (post a picture of you with braids as a kid? You are told you should quit your job and don't deserve to be a professor. Seriously.), even if they aren't cornrows or other typically non-white fashions. A friend was harassed for owning hoodies--since black people can't wear them safely no one should and doing so is racist.

Just this week I got messaged by someone for sharing the Beauty and the Beast trailer because I'm supporting slavery for doing so (the father sells his daughter to the beast).

I'm freaking exhausted. Because they are connected through work I can block these people, but I can't easily get them out of my life forever. You can. You can get rid of friends who make you feel like you and your boyfriend have to edit every part of your lives to fit into their rigid paradigm.

I'm disappointed in fellow activists who expect me to ONLY watch white shows, wear white brands, and listen to white music because I am white. How the HELL can you tell a liberal socially-aware person apart from a supremacist if we are never supposed to watch or ingest or whatever stuff from other cultures in order to avoid appropriation? Ugh.