It's ok. I should have included more details in my post.

When we were dating (and I was still living at home) my father read extremely personal text messages between us. My parents were "really hurt" to find out I was sexually active like that and thought it was disgusting that he slept with me (they made it sound like it was something he did to me) and had me texting about sex.

They used to joke that I was their "baby forever" and would be living with them permanently. So, when my husband (boyfriend at the time) proposed and asked me to move in with him at 19 they weren't happy and accused him of coercion. They told our entire family he was trying to brainwash me because I agreed to move in with him.

They don't like that I value his opinion over theirs and I think they see him as competition. He suggested I change my major and I did. My dad flipped out and told me I was throwing my life away- I was 19 at the time and switching wasn't a big deal. They hate that I've never worked and SAH because my husband prefers it. I realize it isn't for everyone but it works for us and I'm happy (and thankful I can SAH with our baby).

He's never hit me or done anything abusive but they imply he does or will do things like that someday.