1.) a major family event that would be major if any of them actually liked each other. They've all written each other off and don't speak and she has never said a good thing about any of them. I'm surprised she's actually wanting to go and I don't get the impression that she does want to. This idiot an issue about if I want to go. I would love to go if I can.

I'm not asking anyone here to analyze the status of my relationship or how much someone loves the other. That isn't an issue for us.

2.) I don't expect you to understand my financial situation, but the cost of going is way more than I can afford at the current time and I didn't tell her I couldn't go. I told her I won't know my finances around that time until closer to the event. If I can make ends meet, I will go.

3.) You are way off base and if anyone is has commitment issues in the relationship, it wouldn't be me.

There is a lot more going on in my relationship that is irrelevant to the question I'm asking and I'm not going to go into detail, but she has some serious personal issues that she's having to work on with a therapist. Issues that stem from family that affect the way she is in her relationships.

My commitment to her has been solid from the beginning, she can't say the same, but I'm trying to be there for her while she works through it.