I am a single mother of 4 children. I work a full time job a part time job and run a small business from home on the side. My 17 year old will have her associates degree in May and will graduate from a college prep high school with honors in June. She has been accepted into every college she applied to. My 15 year old is on track to do exactly the same as her. Plus he is a fantastic skateboarder and overal great kid. My 8 year old has severe ADHD and test higher than any of his siblings. Plus he is absolutly hilarious. And then there is my sweet 9 girl. Her PDD has been a challenge to say the least. I am not clueless to my kids needs and wants. We are very close and they are very honest and up front. But they are still kids. And all kids mature at different ages. This child does not want to discuss sex. I have tried and tried and she has zero intrest. She starts yelling and humming with her ears covered. YOU MAY HAVE HAD CLUELESS parents but I am not even close to clueless. My kids know to come to me and do come to me. But when a child had communication isssues I feel like reaching out to others that share that issue is a logical step. And one thing you failed to learn growing up was manners. My question was not clueless...it was me digging into the problem. My sister is a therapist and has worked one on one with kids of sexual abuse. Her first reaction was start asking questions...is she wetting the bed? Why the sudden intrest? She was also probing. Thats what informed parents do...they look at all possible options. Which is what I am doing. And I see you deleted your user name....I would have also. Bullies typically hide behind computer screens. You should be ashamed. Now go insult someone else rather than be thankful I care enough about my girl to ask questions and not listen to her tell me 5 years from now how I ignored all the signs. Good luck to you. You will need it with that attitude.