3. LPT: Your time is always better spent helping another person rather than those w...

LPT: Your time is always better spent helping another person rather than those who don't want what you have to offer. People in need have to want to be helped first, no matter how bad you think they need it.

One of my best friends, friends for 15+ years. He has severe depression, and just kind of has a crappy life in an entry level job.

I want him to have a better life, and an willing to do quite a lot to make it happen. But he refuses to even put in a tenth the effort into his own life that I'm willing to put into his life.

I've offered to tutor/train him on what would be a 6 month program (for free of course) to get him a job in my field. I've offered to pay 100% tuition for him for a 9 credit program at the tech school that I went to.

He keeps refusing my offers, bc he says what's the point bc he's going to fail anyway, and that it's just a waste of time and effort for him.

Then in the same breath he complains about being a victim of the system, and that if a trust fund kid gets to choose to not work then he should get that choice.

Idk. Like it just wreaks of entitlement and laziness, but I know that his depression is probably the heaviest contributor, which we've talked about but he refuses to seek treatment.

I grew up in a crappy upbringing, somehow managed to pull myself out of it with very little help. I don't think someone should have to go through what I did, whch is why I want to give back and am offering to pay for his freaking tuition. But instead he turns it down and then says he should be able to not work.

Oh yeah, since I've known him he's had 2 years of time off paid by unemployment, and he didn't use that time and money to gain a skill, he just played video games until his unemployment ran out.

Idk. Like there are actual people in need and I'm happy to pay higher taxes to help someone who is willing to put in an honest effort, happy to put my own money up to people who just need a chance. But not to people who have this entitlement and aren't running to even put in a little effort. Like why am I working to put in 2-5 hours per week into this guy's to life when he doesn't want to put that same effort into himself. That's all I ask. Ugh

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