I feel like given the context though, that I'd told him not to bother coming over if he was going to try and initiate sex because as I said, I'm going through a shit time and didn't have it in me to have sex - moreover, in this instance, while half (I should clarify, almost completely) asleep I didn't have it in me to fight it. I don't think it's fair to say I agreed to it, and was asleep by the time he'd rolled me over and he continued. I get what you're saying, and definitely agree that yeah, these things can happen (and have for us on many occasion) but in this case, I woke up feeling violated and a myriad of other complex emotions regarding what had happened. Considering I, myself, have on plenty of occasions engaged in what you're suggesting occurred, I can pretty safely assure you that this was different and hence my posting it on an anonymous forum to gain some perspective. He's agreed that he questioned his actions at the time also - so we can stop disputing the validity of whether or not it was sexual assault. Both parties have agreed that what happened was not in line with these 'subtle nuances of communication'.