Right before major spinal surgery, I was using a hospital bed and needed to pee in the middle of the night. I was able to walk with a walker or cane at that point but the pain was so bad I immediately hit the floor. I gently yelled out to my husband for help and had to do that a few times to get him to wake up from the bedroom nearby. He stormed out and started slamming things around. Called me stupid, told me I was a giant baby and that I needed to “woman up”. I sat there sobbing and just told him to leave me alone. He went back to bed and I crawled to the bathroom. I cried that entire night and decided I was done. I hated him for that. I thought to myself, what if I get cancer or some terrible long term illness?

I left him and have never looked back. I’m happily remarried to the absolute love of my life now.