um, you are extremely harsh on him, Jesus. I understand it can be frustrating but the problem isnt that he "doesnt listen" or "puts minimum effort into everything he does." (thats awfully mean to say, btw.) Its just really small things that ur getting worked up about and these are honest mistakes. As another person said, your husband probably has ADD/ADHD! And thats totally okay. As someone with ADHD this hurt to read because I can relate to all of his behaviors, and the way you described him is so far from the truth- these really arent his intentions :( and I'm not saying to excuse all of his accidents but just have,, a little bit more grace maybe? Its hard to deal with and this post makes me wonder if other people view me this way because of the things i do that i cant help. try getting him evaluated haha c: