Not to be rude, but could you please re-read my post. A lot of the things you said clearly show you didn't read it closely.

It sounds like you haven't even met his now-wife

From my post: My close friend from college recently married his longstanding girlfriend that I was also friendly with in college.

I liked both of them a lot and they were the only couple I genuinely felt would last forever - which I may or may not have drunkenly blurted out to them...a few times. I wasn't super close with his girlfriend, but I was definitley closer to her than an acquaintance. We spent plenty of time alone hanging out since she would stay over a lot. And yeah, this might be me reading too much into things, but whenever I saw her, she would yell my name and tackle me with a bear hug. She even tried setting me up with one of her friends on more than one occasion because she wanted to go on double dates.

You describe him as one of your "top ten friends from college." That doesn't sound that close. When you consider that he also has childhood friends, high school friends, coworkers, neighbors, church friends, hobbyist friends, all of the family members, family friends, and parents' friends.

From my post: At first, I wasn't that offended because I figured it was just a small wedding. My friend that told me was even closer to him than I was (they're co-workers), so I was able to still justify him going and not me. But then the photos came in from the wedding and practically everyone was there. He invited practically our entire fraternity pledge class (20+ guys). Again, I tried to justify it as maybe he didn't invite me because he hadn't seen me in person in awhile and only invited people living in New York. But looking at the photos, some of these guys flew in from across the country. One guy even flew in from Australia!

Being in the same frat doesn't guarantee you an invitation, either.

From my post: I also want to say that I definitley don't expect to be invited to every fraternity brother's wedding. My fraternity had 100+ kids in it. That would be insane. But I did expect to at least be considered for my close friends in the house.

I'm also not sure why you feel he should have called you and informed you that you weren't invited. It honestly seems a bit mean and confrontational.

I had been talking to him on the phone like once a month. It just feels weird that he would talk to me and not even bring up the fact that he had planned his wedding and that I wasn't invited. Like it just doesn't add up. My friend that told me thought he may have sent the invitation to the wrong address because he was that shocked. If he did send it to the wrong address, then yeah, I assumed he would give me a call to see why I hadn't RSVP'd.

It's also because he invited 40+ people from my fraternity (20 or so from my pledge class and then another 20 or so from other class years), many of whom were less close to him than I was. That's a lot of people! If he was willing to invite that many people, why wasn't I included? As I said in my post, some of these guys have lived very far away since graduation as well. I find it hard to believe he got much closer to guys he was only sort of close with while living thousands of miles away from them.

I'm not upset about not going to a wedding. I honestly don't even like weddings too much. I'm just hurt because I've known him and his now wife for 8 years or so and had envisioned being there to support them. I thought they liked me. But apparently, they didn't.