Listen to your kids.
Mom allowed a man to move in. She was MIA the week he did. My brother and I have NEVER been so appalled and agreed on anything...
This guy was trash. First man she ever let move in due to money needs. The kitchen was trashed, sick and counters and stove full of dirty dishes. Trash over flowing.
I went to put something in the recycle bin it was full of liquor bottles. Maybe he was finishing off the last of what was left? I don't know. Their bedroom and now his cave was downstairs out of the way.
I had to kick him out for abusing mom. He had a drug problem (coke) alcohol problem and stole things from me.
A few years later his son committed suicide.
Might want to run the bullshit and narcissism meter on this man.