I suspect I might have BPD, and taken steps to arrange to see a counsellor. I love my husband to bits, but insecurity can make me go crazy. He can tell me he loves me 6000 times a day, but if I see something I think is rejection, I can spiral pretty badly.

We have horrible arguments, and I too have asked him to leave when angry. We made up after them, but coming back to sanity made me realise I shouldn’t be in a relationship. I don’t deserve to be in one, and he doesn’t deserve to be treated like that.

There’s no easy answers. I can tell you, if she’s anything like me, she loves you to bits. Her standard mode is just to push you away to see if you’ll leave, confirming her opinion of herself - that she’s unlovable.