Thanks for your reply!

There is a guaranteed job for me at my uncles business, but it's a step back from what I'm doing now. I'm in HR and am currently the lead HR person at a medium-sized company (around 45 people), this job would be HR and payroll for family business of like 6 people. My dad has apparently been asking all of his friends if they know of any jobs for me as well, and today he asked for my resume to give to some leads who want to interview me.

My boyfriend is nearly 30 and very irresponsible with money. He makes nearly $150k a year and is always broke, somehow. It became quite frustrating because after two years you start to think about the future, and we have no real future with the amount of debt he has. He is $160,000 in consumer debt (his car and multiple credit cards/lines of credit) and has an additional $200,000 mortgage. His net pay is $10k, so I don't understand why he is constantly on the edge of being broke. It worried me and I brought it up a lot, because we work in the oil industry and jobs are being cut left and right. He pays all the bills and I reimburse him, and he ended up overdrawing his account so much that our cable and internet got shut off for a month. That was when we nearly broke up.

I did envision a future before I knew about these issues. I still love him, but it is disheartening to know that we can never get married or combine finances unless he seriously gets his finances in order. He has promised to do so, which is why we're working things out.

He wouldn't be open to a long-distance relationship and he definitely wouldn't move. I don't think he would begrudge me the opportunity to go (he wouldn't be mad if I left), but him actually trying to figure out his money situation has showed me that he actually is invested in me.