OP, your TLDR- girl that person is you! that isn’t the too long didn’t read part of this post. that is it. that’s the post. you want that? then give ur it to your self first. show yourself you matter, and that what you say, feel, and think are not pointless by 1. realizing deserve it, so already at step one 2. decide that shit “i matter” 3. prove it to yourself by doing what you got to do to be well again

hold your head up high. once you do that. anyone else who walks into your life and doesn’t feel the same will turn you off. if they can’t meet you at your bare minimum, they can meet you period.

being cheated on SUCKKKKS. i’m sorry you’re going through this. not to minimize- i hope this will be a silver lining, but every time it happened to me, i funneled all my intensity into leveling up in every way. and i ended up in a place i never believed i could have.

your depression is your rage, anger, and sense of injustice turned inwards on you. someone’s got to hold it. that’s why he’s acting like it’s some honorable thing to say his confession is enough. cause he doesn’t want to hold it. but you damn sure don’t deserve to hold it.

you’re young. its time to ride. it’s not only about the cheating, it’s that he won’t help you pick up the pieces of the mess he made. it’s that he didn’t feel guilty and confess soon after. cheating can be something you get over (if you want i guess) but that other shit is a character flaw and more stress than it’s worth. the trust is broken. you deserve better.

you’re leveling up to be better for a guy who is bringing you down so you don’t have to feel the pain of what he did fully. but if you want someone to tell you that your feelings thoughts and words are not pointless, then you have to do it first so you can recognize someone who is capable of doing it for you too, cause anybody can and will tell you to romance you. but who will do it.

don’t resist the pain. it’s supposed to hurt. feel your feelings. honor them. only thing better than resilience is being anti-fragile. instead of just withstanding tragic curveballs that should break you, let it turn you you into the “return all bullshit to sender” champion. like attracts like. if you leave, i promise your self respect will keep you warm at night. don’t make yourself the TLDR. this is your life. you are that person!!