My husband [31m] said that, as a woman who's almost 30, I [29f] should never take selfies.

My teenage cousin posts about 5 selfies a day, and she always looks directly at the camera, opens her eyes extra wide, and smiles like she just won the powerball. The funny thing is she never smiles like that in real life, most of the time she's just looking at her phone. I wouldn't recognize her on the street after just seeing her selfies. I miss people looking real in photos, sometimes you would be blinking in a group shot, and you just lived with it. Maybe your smile was crooked, or your head wasn't tilted at a flattering angle, but that was just how you looked in that picture so you dealt with it. Your friends already knew what you looked like, so unflattering pictures were ok. Now people have this whole social media persona, complete with years worth of photos that are carefully taken in order to hide the perceived flaws of the individual, taken for "followers" that they've never met and friends that they barely see. The YouTube is replete with vloggers who create videos that are comprised of nothing more than the user talking at the camera for 20 minutes about every mundane aspect of their lives. When you live in a society like this it's easy to become frustrated by the superficiality and narcissism. I feel that way, so I deleted all of my social media accounts 2 years ago and never looked back. I'm much more tolerant of selfies takers now, because I don't have to see the end result. My SO has heard my full social media rant, so he knows not to take selfies around me very often. I never had to tell him that his face looked stupid, or that he's almost 30 so he should stop posing with giant squash and sausages in ways that make it look like it's his penis. That was way too long, but I'm just saying that I agree with your comment :)

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