As a white man who has an interracial son (asian) with parents and family from the south I have never really received any negative feedback or reactions from my immediate family. That's not to say that other family has not addressed displeasure in our relationship or for our, tainting the bloodline, if you will. I am sure it has been said, but at the end of the day I don't care what my distant or not too distant family thinks of our relationship. My relationship with the mother of my child far extended what anyone outside of my immediate family and their opinions had to do with it. It was ours, it was beautiful, it was dreadful, it was a relationship. It wasn't black and white; white and yellow, it was as real as any other would be or could have been. I have no regrets other than that I may not have done enough, or tried hard enough to keep my family unit together. As far as anyone else is concerned; however, I don't, and did not care. I still don't care of anyone else's opinions on the matter. I have a beautiful and ever evolving son, and my mom and dad love him. It always has been that way, at least as far as I can tell. Once shit hit the fan my close family and friends held out the buckets to catch it. It may have been different, it may have been taboo in one person's handbook or another, but it was still their family. If they want to carry on with the family life they have to accept how the family flows. New generations will explore new avenues of expression and sometimes that will be conflicting with old school values. If they accept you and they want to be apart of your live moving forward like they have been the first 27 years of your life, then that is on them. It's not on you. You have your own life to live. Whilst they may have been the beginning, and you relied on them for sustenance. You are now grown and no longer need the support, you just want it. Carry on as you wish, yo see yourself happy. If they truly value your happiness, then they will, in time, come to treasure it too. You, your wife, their grandchildren; everything they expected from you to fulfill their needs can happen, and they can be apart of it. You just don't have to subscribe to their vision for it to be reality.

As of now I am currently in pursuit of a realtionship with an older black woman. I think she's incredible. Maybe she's everything I want. My mom told me she will approve of any girl I choose, but knowing the current situation she couldn't help but disclose that she had not been raised that way and she is slightly uncomfortable with my current relationship. Even though she is adamant she is not racist. But if it makes me happy she will work with it if it comes to fruition, because she loves me. I assume that's the case for most families in our current world. weather it be as defensively open as mine, or a variation of the sort one way or the other.

Do what makes you happy, and if your family isn't on onboard, then make your own family. If they don't come around, well... then you don't need them. (probably rambling, sorry. I am slightly drunk. My first reddit post ever. Excuse what I assume are the many typos and grammatically incorrect posts please. :).