I'm a little like him. Ok, just a little. I don't lose things, but I have a terrible memory. Best example: You know how people will say, "I'm terrible with names, but I never forget a face"? I absolutely can forget a face. I forget that I have met people. It is humiliating and embarrassing. I've been this way all of my life. OTOH, I have excellent spacial memory. I am never lost and it baffles me that anyone could possibly forget how they got somewhere.

My mom warned my wife (of many years now) about me. Thanks, mom. :)

You need to figure out if this is congenital or if he's just lazy. I do "tricks" for important things: to-do lists, etc. I had a Day-Timer, then a PDA, etc... I don't know what he can do, but my first sentence in this paragraph is crucial: Is this really a natural weakness of his, or is he just lazy?

You have failings, too. I don't know what they are, but you have them. They are unattractive to some people.

My memory has occasionally frustrated those around me, but never as much as it frustrates me. But I have some great qualities, or so I'm told. I'm a software developer and highly valued at work, even though I often look stuff up that others remember. They tease me about it. But they also assign insanely complex projects to me (I'm pretty damned good at reducing complexity, probably a compensation skill).

Is this a deal breaker? If it's not laziness, that still doesn't mean you have to stay with him and have children with him. Some other woman will find this to be something she can overlook. It may seem shallow, but why commit to someone you find unattractive, whether it's something like this or, say, the size of their nose?

You say he doesn't see it as a big deal. That may just be how he keeps from beating himself up over something he can't help. I know. I'm still in the "wish I wasn't like this" phase and I'm way older than you guys.

Sorry I wrote a book. Bottom line: He is probably not changing this, and it may be as unchangeable as your height. If he found your height to be unattractive... well, I'll stop beating the dead horse here.