thanks for sharing your story ambedo, so sorry to hear what you went through. I am very open and honest,and dont play games, but, wear my heart on my sleeve. I do feel bad that i may have hurt him, it was stemming from my insecurity that he wasnt that into me, i so regret it now, but honestly, i always spoke to him with a kind heart and wasnever cruel. when i said he was being hurtful, he was, his wording was terse, but i know thats apparently an infj thing. its all a big lesson. i did not wrong him, so i hope you are right in that it isnt too late. iwish i was more "t" than "f" but we all are who we are, and its our wiring and processing, plus, as you know, we all have past issues that come up to haunt us and test us and help us grow. How did you deal when you got to that "nonchalant" part? how did you go back and reconnect emotionally? and why did you block her each time, to make it easier for yourself? not to hurt her, i assume? i guess at this point, all i can do is wait it out. He knows how i feel, i have apologised....owned my part. Its hard that he is not responding...thanks for your reply and advice :)