I think it helps to know what your goals are, how often you want to have sex in a long term relationship, or if ideally you would prefer something closer to an asexual relationship.

Vaginismus is something that CAN be overcome. While there is nothing wrong with a low libido or non penetrative sex, if you chose not to address it for a while and then go to therapy years later, you could find yourself suddenly having a higher libido in a low libido long term relationship, which would be a pickle.

Do you want to go to therapy for this? Do you WANT to have penetrative sex often?

You could chose to date women (if you are bi), asexuals, guys with very small dicks, or low libido.

However, if this is something that you do want to overcome, it is probably best to do that BEFORE you start dating, so that you understand what you are looking for sexually before things get serious.