White people might call this "little emperor" syndrome. A white coworker once called me that out of nowhere. I'm an Asian American in my 30s and grew up on the east coast but now live on the west. I know this problem exists but I never had this mindset. I always tried to look out for my other asian brothers best interests, romantic and otherwise because I never saw it as a competition and I cared about their lives. I got called naive and noone stayed in touch. I think there's a mindset of scarcity for most of us but I understand where it's coming from. Even now being on the west coast in sf I've had terrible interactions from other Asian American males around my age who don't even know me. They will quickly begin personally attacking me after we meet. There is no community and the older asian Americans prey on the younger generation. Noone gives a damn if you are asian in America, especially other asians. When I walk around and see other asian males, I don't size them up as competition. I assess them and hope they don't have to go through what many in my generation went through. I wish I could help them more but I can't.